Without realising, it’s been a year now. The day Michael Jackson looked down from heaven and saw Josiah and I get officially married. The following day was our church blessing reception and the next day, our wedding dinner reception. One year has past.

Those days being single was not too long ago, yet Josiah and I are not ready to have children yet. We’re targeting two more years.

My entourage at my hen’s night. It just felt like it was less than a year ago.

Josiah and I promised to take care of each other till death do us part.

It was lovely, it was a dream. It was a happy occasion.

Please ignore my extreme skinny-self. This was one year ago, yo!

A common question is, “How’s married life, Kim?” My answer varies but always presents the same point – being married posts its own challenges. It’s a life-long partnership. We have gotten along pretty well so far and our arguments have been minor. We have disagreements and through our many similarities, we have quite a fair bit of differences but we mostly laugh about how silly we can be the next day and we’re closing the gap of our differences. That’s how it is, not all flowery. It’s just the first year and so many more to come. Josiah and I have witnessed many relationships collapse and we can only learn from that. It makes us wonder if we should look at others as role-models for our relationships. I guess we have my Supermom and Superdad as example of a really loving couple. Yet, we don’t know what the future holds.

We can only be optimistic. Josiah and I have been through a few challenges this year, and are still going through them. Long-distance relationship is one of them through his 5-months Japan Keirin stint and he is due to be home end of July. I haven’t really felt it yet as I had been so busy with other things.

Settling into Melbourne officially poses another challenge as well. Something bad happened early this year making me switch plans and I had to take a few months the hard way. I am pretty much settled although still keeping my fingers crossed and can only hope for the best. As a result, I indulge in pole-dance and keep working away to keep my mind free of such challenges. When I’m ready, I might explain and you might be in shock.

Josiah being away has been challenging, then there’s the bit of worrying (behind my neck) of how he really is in Japan. It gets better and better. I worry lesser and lesser now because we’re both pretty independent individuals. Then, sometimes to make matters worse, I have friends who lament to me how long it is before I get to see Josiah, “Omg, he’s coming back end of July? That’s like 5 months away! I don’t know how you can do it. Aren’t you afraid that…You know you should go to Japan too…blablablabla (insert fire here)” I used the word “lament” because it seemed as if they felt more sorry for me than I feel sorry for myself being in my position. “Didn’t you foresee this would happen (LDR) before you got together with him?” I was asked this question just today, to which I just felt like replying (rolls eyes) “Oh no, I didn’t foresee this. I imagined Josiah to be with me 24/7, cradling or hugging me the whole time.” Instead, I explained how important I felt it was to understand his position as a sportsman and how can I not support him, because I have chosen this path. Times are changing. Of course it is! I’m sure everyone reading this have had their partners leave town for at least a few days. Work makes people travel! How do you manage absence? If not now, maybe later. How will you manage absence?

Blablablah, it’s been four months Josiah’s been away and he’ll be back in four weeks time! Really soon, and we’ve just been so busy. We have our short-term goals to achieve for these few early years and we’re working really hard towards that.

I can only pray that God will continue to bless us and keep us safe in His arms just before our photo turns old to look like this…

And before you know it, it will be another year, and another….and another….

Happy Wedding Anniversary, Josiah. It’s been and is nice being married to you. I love you always.

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