Death Is The Beginning

So many times we hear that life is fragile, we don’t really feel it till we lose someone close to us. I realised I wasn’t so good at holding my emotions last night when I cried two days in a row, on several occasions. The optimistic Kim says 94 years old is a good age to pass on, it should call for a celebration. In fact, my sister texted me over the phone and said that she looked really serene at the wake. The atmosphere at the funeral? As if it was a reunion of family and friends. Calm and joyous because she lived a good age. She passed away in her sleep, experienced no pain and had led a good life. I should be relieved. Instead, I was crying for the loss because I imagined she would live forever. It’s a crazy thought but I thought Amah’s always there. She is always the first to pick up my phone calls from near and afar. Everytime I went back to Ipoh, she’s always there.

I received the news in the afternoon about two hours before going to work. Sis called me in the most calm manner breaking the bad news to me. I was calm about it. In fact, I was replying to an e-mail for an audition for Tourism WA, a crazy one I thought I could enter but cannot because I am based in Melbourne and cannot go back to Malaysia for the audition. Suddenly within minutes, it just hit me that I had lost my Amah. Tears started to roll down my cheeks.

I still went to work. Josiah said not to speak to my colleagues about my grandma’s passing otherwise I’d have an outburst. Apparently I looked serious at first at my workplace, still looking professional, then the pizza-maker asked me why I was so serious because we’re constantly joking and laughing. I broke the bad news, and they comforted me. I didn’t make a big deal about it and was laughing and joking the entire night not shedding a tear. Before I went to bed, I broke out again.

The following morning, I challenged myself for a 9.30am hot yoga down the road with Rani. At the final ending pose where we were to lie on our backs, look into the ceiling and just focus on thinking nothing, I found myself thinking of amah again and broke out in tears amidst the hot flushes and sweat from hot yoga. When I walked out of the hot room, I was fine again. I packed my day and filled it with activities and avoided being at home to feel sad. Went to the city, met a few people, did this and that, went to work and at the end of the day when I lay on my bed - broke out again feeling helpless.

I cried so much I have no tears left today and I am sure Amah really left us peacefully. I saw Susan Boyle on Oprah today and she was just relating how she had lost her mother last year before joining Britain’s Got Talent and suddenly went on to sell millions of records and made success in her professional career of singing. She felt as if her mother was guiding her all the way from heaven.

Here, I’m believing that Amah and Grandpa-In-Law will guide Josiah and myself for a great year ahead.

Thank you all for the sweet messages. I am fine and I’ve shed my last tear on my Amah.




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Amah, Pls Meet Grandfather-In-Law

Today is a solemn day. Mixed emotions for me, either to mourn the loss of the passing of my 94-year old grandmother in Ipoh (Doris Ong), or rather to celebrate the victory of number of years she lived on for. The latter is the optimistic Kim in me. My eyeballs have been rather sore thinking about my grandmother with occasional tears trickling down my cheeks. I thought I was unfit to work but decided that it was better for me. I feel helpless. My earliest flight back would already make me miss my Amah’s funeral. I could only pray, give encouragement to my family members (my father) but otherwise, let tears roll down my cheeks. We did spend alot of time together in my earlier days in Ipoh.

Indeed I was very fond of her and to her, I was her “ink dot” of what she regarded as a black speck of hair on my small head as a baby, just like an ink dot. We used to share a lot, she insisted I memorised the Apostle’s Creed from the Bible and bought me my first ever Good News bible. She condoned my dance in ballet when I was little. We used to have long telephone conversations. The second last long one was about my hair for my wedding, how I intended to set my hair for the big day. Imagine, she was 93 at that point and still so clear.

Above: Last taken end of January 2010 when Amah was 94 years old.

She shared words of wisdom and always told me not to wear high heels way before my bunions were developed. She taught me how to take care of my health and beauty, how to always look gorgeous by feeling gorgeous from within. She taught me that vanity was about being confident and emitting positive energy.

If only I listen to Amah about wearing high heels much earlier. I can see where I got my toes from. Uh oh! :P

Dear Amah,

If you’re reading my blog now in heaven, I want you to know that I love you very much and I hope you’re now friends with Josiah’s grandfather Pastor Ng Swee Koon as he went to heaven just two days before you did (aged 85, based in America). If you have not, do look for him, he’s somewhere there! Thank you for all the kindness I received from you and I hope you’ll protect me from heaven. Be my little butterfly who would protect me along the way. May God protect your soul and don’t forget your little ink dot, your youngest Ong.

Love always,
Your Ink Dot.

Don’t you think my grandmother still looked pretty glam just a month ago? My sis served her tea during Chinese New Year.

I’m feeling really tired now. Such coincidence Josiah and I lost our grans. Makes me realise yet again how fragile life can be. Thank you for all the sweet condolence messages I received via FB and SMS.

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Take The Next Step Towards Your Dream Job!

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Preparing for a job interview can be pretty daunting. Everyone would have to go through a similar experience at some point in time. If it is not a job interview, it could be the first meeting with your future mother in-law, a dance audition or meeting your new date. Whatever it is, it can be really daunting and stressful if no proper measures are considered to overcome the fear of a job interview. Let’s face it. We are not born for job interviews. Everyone has to prepare themselves. Plus, given the fact that there are so many things to consider during an interview, it can be really confusing to the point that we forget certain things that we tend to do, unaware.

Imagine the number of things we have to consider for a job interview.

1. Dress for the job or company – Look professional at all times. Even when you’re allowed to wear t-shirt as a graphic designer at an advertising firm, appear professional in a shirt during the interview. Industries like hospitality and tourism, accounting, business and consultancies require candidates and employees to wear suits.

2. Practice good communication – Standing straight, making proper eye contact, firm handshake and even responding e-mails promptly projects efficiency and goes a long way.

3. Be a good listener – Listen and observe, answer questions adequately to match the style and pace.

4. Don’t talk too much – Talking too much would certainly not help. The more you say, the higher the chances of making mistakes and saying wrong things. One day, an employer asked, “So, tell me what kind of challenges or hardships have you faced in your entire lifetime so far?” to which the girl answered, “Well, I was badly abused by my father as a little girl.”The employer was stunned and this dampened the mood for the interview, totally. If I were the employer, I would feel sorry for that poor girl but I think it would be a risk to hire her because of her past in case she might not be able to hold herself well in my company. What if she is psychotic? Well, if things like these happen, it is just best not to mention.

5. Don’t be too familiar – Remember, your interviewer is not your new friend.

6. Use appropriate language – Use professional language. Don’t use slang words like “Lah… you know lah… like that wan mar, what to do, right?” Avoid references to age, race, religion, politics or sexual orientation. What if you accidentally insult your interviewer who is homosexual?

7. Don’t be overconfident – There is a fine balance between confidence, professionalism and modesty.

8. Take care while answering questions – Like for example, “What is your biggest weakness?” Here’s a good one – “My biggest weakness is my desire to please people.” This could actually turn out as something positive, in the eyes of the employer.

9. Ask questions – Ask questions and demonstrate an interest in what goes on in the company. Of course, don’t ask this question!! – “So, can you tell me what your company actually does? How will I fit in?”

Sometimes we are so caught up at the interview we forget how we look because there are no mirrors around. Plus, there are so many factors that could possibly make us nervous. For example, a really large organisation you have been waiting to enter for the longest time looking all professional in its ambience, the interviewer might be really hot and distracting, the room could be too cold, the table is too large and long, seats are too big, whatever the reason may be!

These are some examples of what not to do at an interview.

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 I chose to wear this to an interview at an advertising firm because it is not too professional-looking. For some reason, they don’t like suits! It is, of course inappropriate to wear jeans at the interview too, although jeans are common in the advertising industry. I’d carry a professional bag and also my three important items – pen, notebook, portfolio, a few printed copies of resumes + cover letter and certificate or academic transcripts. I was also given this tip before – to wear something that might be a talking point during the interview (especially in the creative industry). Items I have worn at an interview that showed the creative side of me – like coloured Chinese-pattern leggings (not overly funky but creative in style), red left shoe + green right shoe, different earrings on both side of my ears (above – too small to illustrate). Sometimes, it could be your lucky charm like a favourite bangle or ring.

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When it comes to resume, it’s really not easy. It’s like blogging, it’s like writing a poem. How do you best illustrate this personality of yours to match the job you are looking for and not seem as if you’re a boring and nerdy person?

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Remember that fonts, lines, colour play important roles in bringing the life out of the resume. Melissa Chen is a smart girl with a double degree and one with honours but this resume lacks life with fonts in italics looking rather out of the place. One big no-no is an unprofessional pseudonym for e-mail. Sure, the employer might just hire crazymellie!

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As for Meihua’s resume, it is too short and simple. I am sure she has more information than this.

Ahh, such hassle it is to create the ultimate resume, isn’t it?

Plus, so many things to remember and go through when it comes to seeking and attending a job interview.

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I did not know that there was such a service offered prior to this. Fortunately, I had received countless advice from the right people: my father, uncle and aunties in the professional industry, as well as the internet. However, what happens if you do not get pointed in the right direction?

Well, here is your solution – GradSolutions.

For students, graduates and jobseekers in Melbourne, here’s the place for you.

GradSolutions will be attending three university Career Fairs this year. Be sure to come, and bring your friends along! I will be there, so do come by and say hi! I will see you there!

RMIT University Career Fair
Date: 9th March 2010
Time: 10 a.m. – 1 p.m.
Venue: Victory Room, Etihad Stadium Melbourne Exhibition Centre

Melbourne University Career Fair
Date: 10th March 2010
Time: 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.
Venue: Royal Exhibition Building, Carlton Gardens

Monash University Career Fair
Date: 11th March 2010
Time: 10 a.m. – 1 p.m.
Venue: Clayton Campus

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Hailstorm in Melbourne!

Josiah and I witnessed our first hailstorm together on Chapel Street in Melbourne. It has been years since it last rained like this with droplets of ice cubes, causing minor damage to properties. For some others, it did cause major problems like a powercut in Amici Cafe we were at. It was tough getting out of the area but we had no choice but to be drenched later on. We were safe. We hope there were no fatalities in the area.

Here’s a video of Josiah and I reporting to you (3 hours ago) the condition then.

There was an immediate power cut on the entire street. I didn’t have to work also that same night because of power cut and my restaurant got flooded. -_-

For Coles Supermarket at Prahran, this caused major damage – leakage in the store. Check out the floor.

My Canon Ixus 200 IS was powerful enough to zoom in that far huh.

Crazy day but I honestly loved it, like a kiddo playing in the rain. Did I also mention that it was a romantic date? :)

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Never Speak Too Soon!

I was just reminiscing those days of how I recovered from those days when I had pimples, during my earlier years hitting puberty. It was not an easy period with people telling me how much they pity my skin. Eventually one day, my skin just started getting smooth. I was really relieved. That day has been many years now.

Just after thinking about how smooth my skin was, I immediately got a big pool of pimples on my face. It’s not to a point where people would really notice it but oh golly, it feels weird when I run my finger down my cheeks. Gulp!

I can’t speak too soon, ever! When I say I will not get sick and am really healthy, I immediately get sick the next day. -_-

Okay, time to stop drinking sweets and drink more water. Must have been the lack of sleep too.

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